Let’s go a few years back, or should I say more than a decade back to our high school days. I don’t know about your high school, but mine was all about having a boyfriend or girlfriend. It didn’t mean anything except that you guys were linked up. It’s amazing that we worked so hard to solidify those high school relationships when they were bound for failure. High school days are some of the most insecure times for most teens. How could someone who is still finding themselves possible thrive in a relationship? We have so many open wounds in high school, whether it be from bullies or our parents’ divorces, we can’t fully accept ourselves. This is what makes us so toxic to others.
If you weren’t insecure in high school, there’s a small chance that you married your high school sweetheart. That’s not saying that you’re still married or happy, because those chances are even less. Relationships as a teenager are exhausting. It’s like we thrive on the drama. I remember getting mad at my significant other for the craziest reasons because I loved the attention they would give me to get me to forgive them. Even though I wasn’t the most confident of teenagers, I somehow married my high school sweetheart and even more of a shocker, we’re happy! From everything I’ve learned and studied, I can’t make sense of how it worked out, but it did.
I can’t say we had a healthy relationship in high school, but we were able to have a healthy relationship as we got older. We took some time apart to find ourselves in order to be back together. That may be the main reason why we’re still together now. We started dating when we didn’t know who we were but had time to find ourselves. Without time to find ourselves, we would have been miserable. When it comes down to it, for any relationship to succeed, the people need to know who they are on their own. They need to get rid of their insecurities and take control of what they want. No one should ever tell you what you can and can’t do. It simpler terms, you need to love yourself before you can love others. That’s what we lack in high school. A love for ourselves. We are too busy looking for other ways of validation rather than just looking into ourselves.
You’ll never experience life to the fullest until you take control of your life. High school relationships were once the only thing that you thought about, but hopefully, now you know that there are a lot more things in life that are way more important. You also know that relationships can’t be built on physical attraction alone. It’s also about shared interests, life goals, and intellect. Thankfully, high school is only four years of our lives because I don’t know if any of us would have been able to last for even another year.